The solution: I explained that it is best to spend several hours going through profiles and make a list of women you like. I told him that most women would infer one thing from that: drinking problem. The solution: He toned down the drinking references and accentuated his assets — that he had a nice home, a great family (ahem), and a good job. These are the sorts of things a woman is looking for in a guy — not that he can put away a six-pack!
From that list, narrow it down to your top five, then target those women first. The problem: My brother’s profile was an absolute mess. The problem: Even after my brother was following my advice, he wasn’t necessarily putting himself ahead of the pack in any way.
“It’s just like real estate: If a property is on the market too long, people assume there’s something wrong with it.
A trick among realtors is to take a property off the market and relist it as a new property.” While highly targeted sites can be helpful for some people, most of us are better off at least starting in a big pool with lots and lots potential matches.
He essentially didn’t want to put in the time emailing back and forth — he just wanted to cut to the chase. The solution: I gave him the following formula: There needed to be at least three email exchanges (that is, three from him, three from her) before he even brought up the possibility of a “phone date.” It’s called online dating for a reason — he needed to spend more time getting to know the person online before moving to the phone line. I’m happy to say that my brother was a willing pupil who followed my advice to a T.
After cleaning up his profile, he targeted five cool, dynamic girls who actually seemed like they’d be good matches for him.
And before we knew it, his inbox was full of women just dying to know more about him.“Look at your opening letter to women,” says dating expert Dr. “Make sure it’s personal and includes comments specifically about her profile, what you like about it, why you contacted her (other than that picture of her in a bathing suit), and why she should want to get to know you.” Has your profile been up for a while and not getting much play?“Take an objective look,” says dating columnist April Masini.I knew he didn’t see the need to push the envelope, but I felt he needed to step up his game in order to make himself stand out.The solution: I told him he needed to look for opportunities to knock a girl’s socks off and take advantage of them.