Being a little hard to get certainly couldn’t hurt – instead, Lorraine appeared desperate?
Was this guy leading her on and then dropped the bombshell that he was dating someone? -Kristy As you know, reasonable people can agree to disagree.
See, you’re identifying each man as the problem here. After all, if 50% of all guys are going to disappoint, then this behavior is utterly predictable. But then after exchanging several emails and a few phone conversations, he told me he was dating someone else and that he would call if things didn’t work out, and I was a bit upset by that. She doesn’t assume that they’re “together” because they kissed.
This is long, so make sure you have 5 minutes to yourself. Maybe you’ve been emailing and talking on the phone every night for a week.
Maybe you had an effortless first date that lasted until 2am.
No, the problem is that you EXPECT anything different. I am NOT telling you to accept all their bad behavior. Well, 2 weeks or so after that conversation, he phoned me again, and told me that things didn’t work out with that other lady and asked me out. I rarely feel as comfortable on a first date as I did with him, like we really “clicked”. And she has a really great chance of going on a second date with a man about whom she’s quite excited.
As a result, you are continually derailed each time another guy fails to meet expectations. I am NOT suggesting that you’re wrong to want guys to act with integrity. And, finally, “I should just give up on dating.” A man could draw all those conclusions, but they would be patently false. I agreed to a date (although I did kind of feel like an alternate, or runner up to his first choice). I know it’s too soon to say, since I know all too well that a great first date so often means not all that much. Ask yourself if you’d react the exact same way that Lorraine did. He said it was my story about going to Dodger Stadium w/my Dad and seeing Sandy Koufax pitch a perfect game.